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friendship

December 16 – Friendship. How has a friend changed you or your perspective on the world this year? Was this change gradual, or a sudden burst? (Author: Martha Mihalick)

The night I broke down in my car on the way back home from the theater — soon after Jack died — and I called Ed, and he came to my house, and he held me while I cried? That completely changed my views on friendship. It wasn’t instantaneous, but it was probably within a two-week period in which I realized what friendship could be, and he has continued to be such a friend to me ever since.

To be clear, Ed is the only person in my life with whom I have ever had this sort of friendship. I believe it is rare, and it is only because the grief he has experienced in his life — his only child was killed by a drunk driver a year before Jack died, and his grandson was permanently maimed in the same accident — that he is able to offer what he does to and for me. It makes me sad that we’ve both had such great losses, but I am grateful he has been able to help me as he has, and that — in turn — I am able to help him in the ways that I can.

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