old (2007), Uncategorized

end of year survey no. 1

What is the date?
December 22, 2007. Ah, the Winter Solstice!

What is your name?
Vegan.mama or A.

How old will you be at the end of 2007?
A whopping thirty-four.

Do/Did you have New Year’s Eve plans?
Last year, I decided at the last minute to go to Lincoln Square Lanes. This year, I’ve won tickets to see Spoon at the Metro.

What was the biggest change in 2007 for you?
Getting sober and entering the program.

Who were you closest to in 2007?
I’d have to say M.

What was the most shocking thing you saw in 2007?
Explaining it isn’t (a) blog fodder or (b) exactly PG-rated. But those in the know know what it was.

What was the biggest lie you heard in 2007?
This is like asking “Which destructive hurricane was the worst?” There were a lot of lies, some of which I’m sure I’ll never even know fully. Some hurt more than others, but few were small.

What is the most shocking thing you did in 2007?
I stayed in a relationship after it took a turn for the abusive.

What is the biggest lie you told in 2007?
Telling my friends everything was okay when it wasn’t.

How many sexual partners did you have in 2007?
Uh, here’s a comparison… fewer than 2006 but more than 2005. That’s all I’m saying.

What is your saddest memory for 2007?
As with the biggest lie thing… there were so many, it’s hard to say. I think the days leading up to and after June 5th were the absolute worst, though. If not for M. and V., I think I probably would have killed myself… and for that I will be eternally grateful to those two wonderful women.

What is your happiest memory of 2007?
Cookie Jams on B.’s fifth birthday with M. and D. I was so grateful to be sober and alive and able to spend the day with them. It was the best present I ever could have given my son.

How many traffic tickets did you get in 2007?
None. Then again, I almost never drive.

What was the scariest moment of 2007?
The morning of September 1st at the Four Seasons.

Did you move in 2007?
No, and that’s pretty remarkable. I’ve moved at least once a year every year since, oh, 1989.

What was the most stressful time for you?
My life is one constant ball of stress, so it’s hard to say. I will say that since mid-September, my stress levels have simmered down to a manageable level.

Did you make any new friends in 2007?
I’ve made a lot of them.

Did you lose any friends in 2007?
Sadly, yes. It’s funny how true it is that once you start making healthy choices, your friends change.

How many people expressed a romantic interest in you?
More than I can possibly count. A lot. I don’t get it, really.

How many people turned you down?
None that I can think of.

How many parties did you attend?
Dozens and dozens.

How many weddings did you attend?
None. Yep, dodged that bullet…

How many funerals did you attend?
One, my grandfather’s.

What did you learn about yourself?
That the key to my personal mental health is discovering my limits, setting them, and being willing to walk away from a situation in which they are not being respected or acknowledged.

What did you change about yourself?
Almost everything, but mostly I got stronger.

What are your goals for 2008?
To keep doing the next right thing, one day at a time. To foster old friendships and discover new ones. To love myself. To resolve things with A. To make spiritual progress. To be content and happy.