friends, lessons, old (2007)

in my nature to… ?

One morning, after he had finished his meditation, the old man opened his eyes and saw a scorpion floating helplessly in the water. As the scorpion was washed closer to the tree, the old man quickly stretched himself out on one of the long roots that branched out into the river and reached out to rescue the drowning creature. As soon as he touched it, the scorpion stung him. Instinctively the man withdrew his hand.

A minute later, after he had regained his balance, he stretched himself out again on the roots to save the scorpion. This time the scorpion stung him so badly with its poisonous tail that his hand became swollen and bloody and his face contorted with pain.

At that moment, a passerby saw the old man stretched out on the roots struggling with the scorpion and shouted: “Hey, stupid old man, what’s wrong with you? Only a fool would risk his life for the sake of an ugly, evil creature. Don’t you know you could kill yourself trying to save that ungrateful scorpion?”

The old man turned his head. Looking into the stranger’s eyes he said calmly, “My friend, just because it is the scorpion’s nature to sting, that does not change my nature to save.”

I’ve heard the above story in many incarnations over the years – this one comes from Once Upon a Time: A Collection of Buddhist Stories – and always seem to come back to it, particularly when I find myself frustrated at making what seems like the same few mistakes over and over again. Today, though, I’ve been thinking about this story from a different perspective: one of forgiveness.

It occurs to me that I need to stop trying to change my nature and start forgiving other people for doing what is in theirs. I don’t think this precludes growth and moral ambitiousness; I do think it entails forgiving people for things which are largely out of their control. Does this mean I can’t expect people to change if it’s within their capacity? Not at all. But I do need to stop holding people responsible for things that are not within their reach and start accepting myself for the type of person who is driven to help people who can’t always reciprocate.

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